{"id":1389,"date":"2019-05-26T03:45:03","date_gmt":"2019-05-26T03:45:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/?p=1389"},"modified":"2019-05-24T19:11:43","modified_gmt":"2019-05-24T19:11:43","slug":"its-all-your-fault","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/2019\/05\/26\/its-all-your-fault\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s all your fault"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>It&#8217;s all your fault! There, now you can fix it, right?**<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> One of the biggest lessons I had to learn was that not everything was under my control.  See, if I was the cause of something then clearly I had control over it and could then presumably fix it.  But if it wasn&#8217;t my fault then I had no control.  Then what?    Then we do what we can with our limited control and go from there.   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There, now you can fix it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1390,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[65,13,34],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1389","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-alchemy-for-life-book","category-balance-wisdom","category-podcasts"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1389","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1389"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1389\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1412,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1389\/revisions\/1412"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1390"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1389"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1389"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1389"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}