{"id":2364,"date":"2021-04-18T04:05:00","date_gmt":"2021-04-18T04:05:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/?p=2364"},"modified":"2021-04-17T22:42:21","modified_gmt":"2021-04-17T22:42:21","slug":"im-sorry-dave","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/2021\/04\/18\/im-sorry-dave\/","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m Sorry Dave"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Did you lie to the program?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Everyone lies, cheats and steals<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Wow is that offensive, but it&#8217;s true.  It&#8217;s to what degree you do it that makes the difference.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Ever been pulled over for speeding?<\/li><li>Ever played a board game that you wanted to end sooner than later?  <\/li><li>Ever find an item in your groceries that you weren&#8217;t charged for?  How about a pen in your purse from work?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about the above as we proceed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Lawmaker <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p> When you make laws you try to make them to benefit as many people as possible.  You make them logical to get a job done in a way that also prevents the aforementioned things above.  I&#8217;ve made many many laws.  Am I a legislator.  No, and never ask me that again.   But I do make laws, and so do you.  You surround yourself with them.  I&#8217;ve made many laws, because I&#8217;ve designed systems that work really well, and more often than not these systems are based on another set of programmatic laws I created &#8211; code.  #NERD  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So when you create a program or a set of laws, sometimes things don&#8217;t work.  The real problem arises when you try to fix a system and you can&#8217;t find the problem&#8230;  What happens when there&#8217;s a problem because the user isn&#8217;t telling you what they <em>really<\/em> did?  What if you buy a widget on Amazon and you find you can&#8217;t afford it, but instead of just saying that you say it doesn&#8217;t work?  The coding dude can&#8217;t fix the program, and the company on Amazon gets bad reviews for no reason.  And maybe they go out of business.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The tightrope<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;ve heard the story of the tightrope between two buildings, 80 stories up.  There&#8217;s $100, $500, $1,000, $100,000 on the other side.  Nope nope nope.  Even for a million you&#8217;re not going to cross that treacherous tightrope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your 10 year old son is on the other side.  <strong><em>OK I cross it<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all have guiding principles.  I&#8217;m not suggesting we don&#8217;t, but to what degree do you not follow them&#8230;?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2001<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine that you apply the same lying, cheating, stealing with your relationships, your clients, your family.  You&#8217;re always working through <em>the program<\/em> of those relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you lie to the program you won&#8217;t get the results it was designed to give you<\/strong>.  And if it <em>only<\/em> gives you the results you want <em>because<\/em> you lied, then it&#8217;s pretty certain you&#8217;ll do it again.  It worked the last time\u2014just lie to avoid the conflict, or to manipulate the program to give the results you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What could possibly go wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, in 2001 Hal 9000 ended up killing everyone.  And in your world it&#8217;s just going to make things more complicated, push your true self away, and that person in the mirror is going to be harder and harder to look at.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practise to deceive<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>That was Sir Walter Scott in 1808.  It&#8217;s a great phrase, because it sums up that it&#8217;s not only bad idea, but it sure creates a lot of f**king work for you (and others).  I&#8217;ve often said I&#8217;m too lazy to lie.  Maybe that&#8217;s humility, maybe it&#8217;s just the boring truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The parameters of reality<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>As I say in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Status-Game-II-Dashboards-Gages\/dp\/1948326035\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The Status Game II<\/a> &#8211;<strong><em> Life is a game and I&#8217;m just showing you the board<\/em><\/strong>.  Cool huh?  I&#8217;m not telling you how to run your life, but I&#8217;m telling you how to run your life.  If you don&#8217;t lie to the various programs in your life\u2014software, relationships, yourself\u2014you&#8217;ll have a lot less work to do, a lot less stress and that person in the mirror is going to like you a lot more.  You may even find a part of yourself that&#8217;s been dormant for a very long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, I encourage you to just be lazy. <\/p>\n<div itemscope itemtype=\"http:\/\/schema.org\/AudioObject\"><meta itemprop=\"name\" content=\"I&amp;#8217;m Sorry Dave\" \/><meta itemprop=\"uploadDate\" content=\"2021-04-18T04:05:00+00:00\" \/><meta itemprop=\"encodingFormat\" content=\"audio\/mpeg\" \/><meta itemprop=\"duration\" content=\"PT12M48S\" \/><meta itemprop=\"description\" content=\"Do you lie to the program?  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