Aren’t my titles long?<\/p>\n
I remember being privy to a conversation in email.\u00a0One person was having an issue of a technical nature.\u00a0The likes of this issue would soon pass.\u00a0He wrote an email to his supervisor regarding the issue and after a bit of a rant ended it with deciding that this day was\u00a0one of the worst days he had ever had<\/em>.\u00a0With many exclamation points and everything.<\/p>\n He wrote it to someone who just learned she had cancer.<\/p>\n It gave me pause.\u00a0The recipient was unaffected by, and unaware of this irony.\u00a0 Nor was the sender.<\/p>\n I was, however.<\/p>\n The person having the bad day felt the need to describe it, to define the intensity of the badness.\u00a0He was telling her, on his scale, where this was.<\/p>\n I’ve mentioned before that people who have gone through the most in life are usually those that seem the happiest.\u00a0I know that personally.\u00a0Having been through some amazing, movie quality, popcorn-and-martinis stories resets your internal ruler to what\u00a0zero<\/em>\u00a0actually is.\u00a0You know it, and it ain’t a hangnail.<\/p>\n All this leads me to ponder on balance, and specifically how balance differs for the two of them.\u00a0For him an unbalancing event is a temporary work issue that can be offset by more coffee, some complaining and an assertion of his bad day being pretty far up there. With lots of exclamation points.<\/p>\n For the other balance takes the form of simply enjoying the fact that her body is craving food and providing a level of comfort after suffering through another chemo treatment.<\/p>\n Balance is relative, isn’t it?\u00a0We already know that balance itself is different for each person.\u00a0For example, a job for one person can provide not only productivity, but spirituality and health – such is the case of a professional Yoga instructor.\u00a0For another person their job may be income, but not much feeling of productivity<\/em>, so they pursue other things like volunteer work, and belong to a gym.<\/p>\n But this is another level, the relativity of balance means that\u00a0the same event has a vastly different effect on two people<\/em>.<\/p>\n As I said in my talk (and article)\u00a0Balance Through Transition<\/em><\/strong>, you make adjustments when going through a transition.\u00a0Often times you are unaware of all the adjustments.\u00a0And, more often than not, you keep making those adjustments after you’re\u00a0through<\/em>\u00a0the transition.\u00a0Autopilot.<\/p>\n She is going through a transition – on top of all the layers of her world is now another layer.\u00a0She has to make adjustments, to cope and to give herself a sense of normalness.\u00a0Having a temporary work issue is no longer in the category of ruining her whole day.\u00a0Her meter is adjusted; she knows where zero is and an email issue doesn’t move her needle much.<\/p>\n So thusly that kind of setback also provides much less imbalance.<\/p>\n It almost sounds like she has a superpower, that her condition provides her with a certain clarity and immunity.\u00a0Right?\u00a0She can see things for what they are.\u00a0A whole room of people are up in arms over an issue.\u00a0She just says, “Meh.”\u00a0It’s a kind of wisdom.\u00a0This is the clarity that people in transition often have. Not all are aware of it, they just think they are focusing on the big issues, but they are actually treating issues in life for what they are.\u00a0Their scale is accurate.<\/p>\n Imagine if she could impart that clarity and apparent immunity to the person having the horrible day?\u00a0Imagine if she could sync up his scale, and the scale of others\u00a0with her much more accurate scale.<\/p>\n Perhaps I can do that for her, by writing about it.<\/p>\n Note: I’ve slowed down on posting articles a bit as I just finished a fiction and am finishing up a book on balance. I’ll do my best to keep the articles coming. Assuming you’re reading them. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Aren’t my titles long? 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