{"id":3280,"date":"2023-03-17T13:34:04","date_gmt":"2023-03-17T13:34:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/?p=3280"},"modified":"2025-07-09T15:31:15","modified_gmt":"2025-07-09T15:31:15","slug":"become-ceremonious","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/2023\/03\/17\/become-ceremonious\/","title":{"rendered":"Become ceremonious"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Become Ceremonious!    Make stuff in your life more important - even to you - and you\u2019ll be happier!\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/St1VfM64o04?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is ceremony?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you look it up you&#8217;ll be told it is a &#8220;ritual observance or procedure.&#8221;  Most cases refer to weddings, and that&#8217;s good because that&#8217;s the example I used in the podcast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why do I want more in my life?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You want more if you&#8217;re trying to make a habit stick, or something is important to you but know one seems to understand that\u2014including <em>you<\/em>.  In other words you want something to be more important but haven&#8217;t been able to figure out how to do that.  I get it.  I&#8217;ve been there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How do I add more ceremony?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s talk about how you can add more ceremony in your life which will <strong>make you feel better in general, make you feel happier, and help you make a habit stick<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\">Transcript of episode:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Become Ceremonious: The Power of Ritual<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>&#8220;Become ceremonious.&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It sounds cool, doesn&#8217;t it? You&#8217;ve heard people say &#8220;become ungovernable,&#8221; but you&#8217;ve likely never heard anyone say &#8220;become ceremonious&#8221; until now. So, what do I mean by that, and why would you want to do it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being human is complex. As I explore in my &#8220;Do It to a Fault&#8221; seminar, we don&#8217;t just &#8220;do things.&#8221; Our actions are affected by who we&#8217;re with, our mood, and the ceremony surrounding them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The truth is, we tend to create ceremonies for the most important things in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why We Use Ceremonies<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about weddings, funerals, graduations, and parties. We take something important and we make a big deal out of it. We conform the event to a specific series of movements and moments\u2014a ceremony. We do this because the event is important, and the ceremony drives home that importance, giving it more impact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&#8217;ve decided to spend the next 50 or 70 years with someone, you don&#8217;t just say, &#8220;Hey, we&#8217;re together now.&#8221; You have a big, giant ceremony to tell everyone, in no uncertain terms, how important this commitment is. The same is true for a funeral; we go through specific rituals to honor the importance of a person&#8217;s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These events follow a familiar structure. A wedding has the ceremony, the pictures, the reception, the honeymoon. This structure, this ritual, is what gives it its weight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Become Ceremonious in Your Daily Life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>So, how does this apply to you? I&#8217;m asking you to use this same mindset\u2014this same sense of importance\u2014for the things in your own life. No, I don&#8217;t mean you need a big ceremony to empty the dishwasher. But for the things that <em>are<\/em> or <em>should be<\/em> important to you, becoming ceremonious can create really impactful changes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let me give you an example. One day, I decided that Sunday night was my &#8220;Tea Ceremony&#8221; night. At sundown, I turn off all electronics\u2014no way to reach me. I listen to inspirational meditation music, have tea, and just clear my mind. It&#8217;s my time to think about the previous week and the week to come. It\u2019s a routine, and a routine is just a baby ceremony, isn&#8217;t it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How can you enhance a routine and turn it into a ceremony?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s say you work out at a certain time on a certain day. What if you connected other adjacent actions to it? You decide to stop work a little earlier to get in the proper mindset. You listen to a specific song on the way to the gym and another on the way back. Afterward, you engage in another act of self-care. By connecting these other things, you&#8217;ve created a workout and improvement ceremony.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A ceremony tells your brain, &#8220;This is important.&#8221; When you do that, your brain raises the status of that activity above all the little nagging things that bother you, like &#8220;Did you pay the water bill?&#8221; We don&#8217;t think about those things at a wedding, and we shouldn&#8217;t think about them during our workout ceremony. You create time and emotional borders around that important thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Where is Ceremony Missing in Your Life?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I bet if you take stock of the things in your life that are slipping\u2014the things you really want to do but aren&#8217;t\u2014those things don&#8217;t have any ceremony connected to them. If you say, &#8220;I really want to work out twice a week,&#8221; but your plan is &#8220;I don&#8217;t know, whenever I have time,&#8221; I&#8217;ll bet it rarely gets done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This applies to everything, including seeing your friends. If you say, &#8220;We&#8217;re going to see each other once a month at this restaurant,&#8221; I&#8217;ll bet you see them regularly. If you just say, &#8220;We should get together soon,&#8221; seven months will pass.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The concept behind this ties directly into my &#8220;Do It to a Fault&#8221; seminar, which is about connecting something you want to do (or don&#8217;t want to do) to a <strong>F<\/strong>eeling, <strong>A<\/strong>ctivity, <strong>U<\/strong>niversal, <strong>L<\/strong>ocation, or <strong>T<\/strong>ime. If you get the concept of a ceremony, you can get that concept.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, I would urge you to check out the seminar\u2014you&#8217;ll be surprised at the price. 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