Are chainsaws bad? No. Should toddlers use them? No. We use chainsaws to perform a task, we don’t give them to toddlers because it is dangerous to do so and the toddlers don’t understand the balance of danger and functionality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Does your car have airbags? Do you own fire extinguishers? Do you have insurance? All of these things are in place because you had to think the negative thoughts of contingency plans in case something negative happened. Entire departments exist within businesses for just such a purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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We have to think and speak negative thoughts. As I said in the The Holy grail of Positivity Bias<\/a> and Just Be Positive<\/a>, thoughts are just thoughts, and being afraid to think certain thoughts does not help you get to your goal. You can talk about the negatives all you want as long as you’re not creating barriers for yourself that don’t exist<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n if you have been through a system for years, and you explain to someone the ins and outs of it and why you’re making the choices you are not being negative, you are explaining how things work. Beating your head against the wall repeatedly because someone tells you that to not do so is being negative is not realistic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Let’s talk about the incredible waste of energy of avoiding negative thoughts.<\/strong><\/p>\n