Do you have dark matter on your calendar?\u00a0 Do you know what dark matter is?\u00a0 That’s OK – no one actually does yet.\u00a0 See, we think that a good portion of the universe is made up of dark matter but we don’t understand what it is exactly.\u00a0 We think it exists because it accounts for the matter thats missing in all the equations.\u00a0 It explains a lot by being there.<\/p>\n
So, do you have stuff on your day to day calendar that’s taking up time, energy and even resources that you can’t explain?<\/p>\n
Then you have dark matter on your calendar.<\/p>\n
You will find that doing nothing actually isn’t nothing.\u00a0 And it can cost a great deal of time, energy and even resources doing this nothing.<\/p>\n
Let me give you an example –<\/p>\n
We all have this friend, or co worker that is in a bad position – they don’t like the relationship they are in, or they really dislike their job, or there’s something they want to do but can’t.\u00a0 Right…?<\/p>\n
So they spend a lot of time telling you about it; they don’t just mention it in passing but instead tell you over and over again.\u00a0 Your response is to try to fix it, offer advice, stuff like that.\u00a0 But they don’t listen.\u00a0 They keep telling you essentially the same story over and over.\u00a0 When you offer whats seems to be a fairly obvious solution to their dilemma they don’t take it to heart.\u00a0 Instead they deflect and avoid and just dig even deeper into this issue – over and over again.\u00a0 They are not just spending their time; they’re spending yours.<\/p>\n
When someone is complaining and pontificating about an issue that is near and dear to them, they do it with considerable vigor and emotion.\u00a0 This takes energy – more energy than reciting a grocery list.\u00a0 Getting up on that soapbox – again and again – takes considerable energy.\u00a0 And, somehow finding something to talk about with you when you present logical solutions takes even more energy.\u00a0 Yours too.<\/p>\n
The typical non solution to a problem in the type of situation we’re talking about is to go grab a drink, complain, repeat, slowly smolder away into oblivion.\u00a0 Those drinks ain’t free you know.\u00a0 And we could mention the ‘opportunity cost’ of sitting around having a drink over and over again instead of perhaps pursuing something more constructive and possibly profitable.<\/p>\n
Listen to the podcast for more.<\/p>\n
My new book, The Status Game<\/strong>, has a release date of today!\u00a0 Check out my Author’s corner on Amazon<\/a> to see it.\u00a0 It’s a no fluff book explaining how we connect, how dating works and the mechanics of relationships.<\/p>\n
It’s a bit more irreverent than my podcasts, since you really have to have a sense of humor about dating…<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
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