Are you<\/strong><\/em> one of them<\/strong><\/em>?\u00a0 Then you’re going to be offended.\u00a0 You’re going to say just how wrong I am, you’re going to become very defensive and you’re going to attempt to cite examples.\u00a0 Then you’ll read further and your examples will mostly fall apart.\u00a0 Your further defensive measures will kick in and you will dissect what I am saying.\u00a0 Then you’ll peruse my articles, my podcasts, my pages.\u00a0 \u00a0You’ll skim for key words and stuff like that because you’re not really the type to read anything thoroughly.\u00a0 You’re not about empirical data – doubtful you are familiar with the “e” word anyway – and operate mostly on intuition.\u00a0 Everything you do is an emotional reaction to something in your life that was messed up and you’re just making this up as you go and trying to project your stuff on everyone else anyway.\u00a0 You’re like that, and it has served you well because of your prey.<\/p>\n Unless you’re not<\/em><\/strong> one of them, and instead you’re the people they attract<\/strong><\/em>.\u00a0 Then we still have time.\u00a0 If you’ve become tainted, become interested and like the sailors of olde your ship is being drawn to the jagged rocks of stupidity, reactionary narrow-minded logic and fluff due to your despair and frustration then allow me to stand in the way and put a stop to that.\u00a0 \u00a0No, I’m not going to immediately direct you to my island of logic, systemic approaches, understanding and ultimate tranquility of accomplishment.\u00a0 I first just want to stop your ship from being disintegrated and you from being cast into the ocean of confusion where you sink deeper and deeper into sadness and hopelessness.<\/p>\n What am I talking about?\u00a0 I’m talking about the sirens of self help – the people who sing their sweet song of I Know Better Than You and If This Happens Do That and also I’m Really Attractive and Have Nice Teeth.<\/p>\n See, a long time ago before science and the scientific method took a solid foothold in our collective intelligence people would rise to notoriety because they noticed a thing.\u00a0 Once they noticed a thing they would then talk this thing up and explain your ills with it.\u00a0 And when that thing made no sense in a particular situation?\u00a0 They’d make up another thing.\u00a0 Yes, make up. You breathed bad air, so we have to make you breathe good air, and let me get the leeches.\u00a0 Feel better now?\u00a0 Sorry about having to remove your leg but hey, that was necessary.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Come back in a few days and I’ll have an explanation.\u00a0 Also that will be 150 silver pieces, your majesty, and now I’m in Spain.\u00a0 Bye.<\/p>\n The scientific method says essentially come up with a system, test it, test it again and then show it to your peers.\u00a0 Ask “What’s wrong with this?”\u00a0 You yourself test it for integrity and for validity.\u00a0 You yourself become a skeptic of your own creations and theories.\u00a0 It’s an awfully good method to get some concrete, helpful stuff out there.\u00a0 It’s not perfect, and sometimes it makes it hard for ‘radical’ theories to get much notice but no one’s getting leeches in the process.<\/p>\n Their process – and when I say “their” I mean the aforementioned Sirens of Self Help – is the opposite, much like the leech providers of olde.\u00a0 Their method is the opposite of the scientific method.\u00a0 And much like the providers of old they focused heavily on the pains.\u00a0 Have a pain?\u00a0 Do this.\u00a0 See ya.\u00a0 It’s a very lucrative process.\u00a0 It’s simple, works for a lot of people and requires very little other than two things – a little intuition and some confidence.\u00a0 It doesn’t hurt if you are the right gender, age and are attractive.\u00a0 There’s a reason that the sirens are mostly younger, attractive women.\u00a0 Because it works.\u00a0 I won’t go into the details of why, or why those same principles apply to real estate agents, spokespeople, recruiters and salespeople in general.\u00a0 It’s a universal appeal that works on men and women.<\/p>\n I’m in no way detracting from younger attractive women with charisma, I’m saying that this combination is perfect for a Siren of Self-Help, because that’s all they need.<\/p>\n Which ones are the Sirens?\u00a0 Well all of ’em.\u00a0 OK, ok, not all of them, just most of them.\u00a0 How do you identify them then?\u00a0 Here’s how to identify them and stop your ship from being pulled to the jagged rocks and the resulting frustration and anger.\u00a0 The following are common phrases and their transaltions<\/p>\n <\/p>\n So you ask what my deal is and how I am not a siren?\u00a0 Clearly I am putting effort into deflecting you from them to me right?\u00a0 Well, no not directly.\u00a0 See, I’m not good at marketing.\u00a0 I’m not a fan of the ‘click funnel’ or the ‘sales funnel.’\u00a0 I’m not big on giving out a three page useless PDF that just pats me on the back that is filled with links and thanks for your email because now I’m going to email you constantly until you buy something or shoot yourself or both.\u00a0 This is why my site(s) and my books are filled with information.\u00a0 This is why I have over 40 podcasts, each and every one of them containing more than one tangible take away that you can actually use.\u00a0 None of them are overly granular do this tiny thing when this tiny thing happens kind of thing.<\/p>\n I’m all about systems<\/strong><\/span> – I always have been.\u00a0 I didn’t realize that until recently but I had always had that focus.\u00a0 \u00a0I wrote about how our resilience and our ability to deal with tough stuff in our lives is a system<\/em>.\u00a0 I wrote that new year’s resolutions won’t work if they are just an empty promise.\u00a0 They work when there is a system in place<\/em> to make them work.\u00a0 When I created the Alchemy For Life coaching system<\/em> I not only created a system<\/em>, but literally an online visual system<\/em> that allows people to see the process.<\/p>\n So when I approach how people connect to each other, how relationships – business and personal – work, I see it as a system<\/em>.\u00a0 And I did.\u00a0 And when you create the correct system that accurately reflects what’s actually happening, then it works.\u00a0 it works not just for that one thing that happened, it works for everything.\u00a0 And it doesn’t involve leeches.<\/p>\n The old adage says that if you teach someone to fish then they can feed themselves forever, as opposed to just handing them a fish.\u00a0 Fortunately the Sirens aren’t handing you a fish.\u00a0 Oh no; they wouldn’t do that.\u00a0 Instead they charge you a few hundred dollars for that fish.\u00a0 If you want more fish then just ask, and pay.\u00a0 And other kinds of fish?\u00a0 Well, that’ll cost you too.<\/p>\n A system<\/em> teaches you not only how to fish, but why that fishing works, so you can apply it to other fish.\u00a0 It takes a step back.<\/p>\n When people want to reach goals through the Alchemy For Life system, we don’t just write down a bunch of goals.\u00a0 Instead we take two steps back, and fill out a colorful visual sheet on line that shows where all their time, energy and resources are going.\u00a0 Once we have that in place we then start to see a picture, and from that picture the goals spring forth.\u00a0 They are not random goals – they actually make sense.\u00a0 And since everything is mapped out we can actually make the time and the energy (and even reserve the resources) to make that goal happen.\u00a0 And you might even want a different goal than you initially thought you wanted.<\/p>\n Do you see how that is radically different than their<\/em> formula:<\/p>\n You want to do X?\u00a0 I will help you do X and give me a lot of money.<\/em><\/p>\n Instead you will be taught to fish.<\/p>\n So we haven’t even touched on what The Status Game is, and how that is radically different than ALL – and this time I do mean ALL<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0– the other dating and relationship authors and coaches.\u00a0 \u00a0The Status Game takes many steps back and explains HOW it all works, how it is all based on status, how there are three kinds, how we judge ourselves, or friends and our lover(s).\u00a0 What you do with this information can help you understand your relationship, yourself and even affect your marriage.<\/p>\n I think you have been more than gracious and kind in spending your time reading this.\u00a0 if you want to read further about Alchemy For Life<\/a> or The Status Game<\/a>, follow the links and read further.\u00a0 My facebook page<\/a> keeps you up to date, the Instagram page<\/a> includes updates and useful memes that are not designed to make you shove money at me in a\u00a0 reactionary manner.\u00a0 Instead they are meant to inform you and make you laugh.<\/p>\n Full disclosure of what I am selling:<\/p>\n What I give away for free:<\/p>\nUnless you are not one of them<\/h1>\n
The Sirens of Self-Help<\/h2>\n
The scientific method<\/h2>\n
Their process<\/h2>\n
Identifying them<\/h2>\n
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OK, so what your (my) deal?<\/h2>\n
Systems are everything<\/h2>\n
Something about teaching you to fish and eating and so forth<\/h2>\n
The Status Game<\/h2>\n
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