{"id":868,"date":"2018-10-28T04:41:53","date_gmt":"2018-10-28T04:41:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/?p=868"},"modified":"2018-10-27T19:53:55","modified_gmt":"2018-10-27T19:53:55","slug":"doubt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alchemyfor.life\/balancecoaching\/2018\/10\/28\/doubt\/","title":{"rendered":"Doubt"},"content":{"rendered":"

As I said in the Dread<\/a> podcast, I read a lot of articles on productivity, personal development and all that jazz.\u00a0 The result is invariably the same – there’s a huge build up of hopes and expectations and then they are dashed on the rocks below.\u00a0 \u00a0Great title, long long article and really nothing new.\u00a0 Or worse – “buy my stuff and then see a longer answer to this which will essentially be the same thing, just in long format and you have to pay for it.\u00a0 \u00a0There are a lot of labels promising eternal youth, a cure for what ails you and super strength.\u00a0 There are article titles telling you that if you just do these two things something remarkable happens.\u00a0 They tell you that they have something astounding to tell you, and that in just\u00a0 few paragraphs you’ll have this tidbit of wisdom that will Change Your Life Forever.<\/p>\n

The raising and the dashing<\/h2>\n

Over and over again, my hopes are raised by just a few words and then four minutes later dashed on the craggy rocks below – shattered and disbursed by the crashing waves that laugh as they smash into whatever little fragments of hopes are left, absorbing them into the salty cold waters below.<\/p>\n

Such is the life of someone searching for answers, unabashedly open to the wisdom of others.<\/p>\n

So, you can imagine how I approach doing the same thing: making a promise in a title and then delivering something tangible in the body.\u00a0 My labels may not be as exciting with New and Improved and You’ve Never Seen This Before but the formulae is solid.<\/p>\n

My Pitch<\/h2>\n

When I say these two things will make a huge difference, I mean it.\u00a0 When I say I’ve identified a cork that you can pull out to allow stuff to happen I mean it.\u00a0 And I’m not asking for you to Try This For Only 200 Days.\u00a0 No, try it for a day.\u00a0 Try it in the morning, see what happens an hour later<\/strong>.\u00a0 Yeah, I made that bold because you’re lazy and were just skimming.\u00a0 Ha.\u00a0 Gotcha.<\/p>\n

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What is doubt?<\/h2>\n

Doubt is supposed to be a ‘feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction.’\u00a0 Sounds simple enough, right?\u00a0 If you doubt something then you’re uncertain, or not really into it.\u00a0 Well, doubt wouldn’t be such a big deal if that’s all it was – it’s a lot more than that.\u00a0 And more importantly, it’s what it does to you, your schedule and your day.<\/p>\n

Here’s what to do about doubt<\/h2>\n

So here’s what not to do.\u00a0 Don’t just shove yourself into it.\u00a0 Don’t just ‘try’ and think “oh well better just jump in with both feet” and other motivational cliches.\u00a0 No, instead it’s another mental\/emotional exercise.<\/p>\n

Again set the stage and play it through on your stage.\u00a0 You do this thing and…\u00a0 what happens?\u00a0 Chances are the world doesn’t end.\u00a0 There are usually two versions of what happens next:<\/p>\n

You run into the wall of I Don’t Know What’s Going To Happen, that’s the problem!<\/em>\u00a0 Ahh.\u00a0 You are afraid of the outcome to the point that you just pull the curtains.\u00a0 The actors just stand there.\u00a0 There’s no more to the script.\u00a0 Well that’s not helpful, is it?\u00a0 Nope.\u00a0 So do this instead:\u00a0 \u00a0Since it’s just a stage in your head open those curtains and when they say “line” tell them.\u00a0 And watch.\u00a0 Watch what happens because your answer of “I have no idea” is like poop to me.\u00a0 You DO know.\u00a0 You have enough experience with humans, young and old, crazy and sane, to have a clue and play it out.\u00a0 So play it out.\u00a0 Now play it out again and change it a little.\u00a0 Now change it again.\u00a0 Did this one seem absurd?\u00a0 Did you feel that it’s just dumb to think that this would be the outcome?\u00a0 Good, then pull back and do it again.<\/p>\n

You’re playing with the permutations and possibilities.\u00a0 In other words, you’re both getting in touch with the actual reality, and your understanding of it.\u00a0 It’s both of those things being off that causes the doubt in the first place.<\/p>\n

Now do it a final time.\u00a0 Oh, you’re bored?\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because its.. obvious that this is how it will work?\u00a0 Then you have done well. Stop judging the article and do it.<\/p>\n

“But I’m really bad at [That Thing] and that’s why I have the doubt, you dummy.” you think and\/or say.<\/p>\n

Ok, if you’re sure then nothing will change when you run through the simulation above right?\u00a0 I’ll wait.<\/p>\n

If it did change, then you see how doubt masquerades as knowledge, or lack thereof.<\/p>\n

If it didn’t change, then it revealed what you’re not certain about, or why you’re uncertain, and that helps you do solve that and come back.<\/p>\n

In conclusion<\/h2>\n

If you’re the average person, and were experiencing doubt and\/or dread, and have truly gone through this simple simulation then you probably no longer feel it.<\/p>\n

It’s pretty cool, isn’t it?<\/p>\n

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