It’s all your fault! There, now you can fix it, right?**
One of the biggest lessons I had to learn was that not everything was under my control. See, if I was the cause of something then clearly I had control over it and could then presumably fix it. But if it wasn’t my fault then I had no control. Then what? Then we do what we can with our limited control and go from there. It’s a strangely selfish and protective thing we do when we do this – assuming blame and therefore control.
This happens in both relationships and business – and can truly burn you out when it gets out of control.
** What have you taken responsibility/blame for that was not your doing and not under your control, because you thought you could then control it? How did that work out?
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Mark Bradford is the author of 10 books, both fiction and nonfiction, including the clinical psychologist-endorsed Three Voices, the new BeCAUSE! as well as the award-winning trilogy The Sword and the Sunflower.
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