The pleasure principle and a new book

The pleasure principle and a new book

I have a new book coming out. it’s my 10th, and it’s based on my take on the pleasure principle and what I believe is a layer just above it. It’s what allows us to accomplish things that others do not. It’s what prevents us from doing things...
What I learned writing a screenplay

What I learned writing a screenplay

(and how it might help you tell your own story) Telling a story in an unfamiliar medium with constraints you’re not accustomed to is a common theme in business. You may be the best story teller in your circle/medium/genre but if you need to tell your story...
Teacher, Teach Thyself

Teacher, Teach Thyself

Q&A and the answer (That’s so meta) Have you ever helped a friend who has a question or a conundrum, and the answer was so obvious to you that you easily spelled it out for them? You felt pretty smart. You noticed at some point that when you’ve had...
Do you experience Disconnected Happiness?

Do you experience Disconnected Happiness?

A tale of disconnected happiness or Benign Violation Theory. Allow me to tell you a tale of disconnected happiness. Perhaps you can relate? Helpful related (or referenced) episodes: The holy Grail of positivity bias Throwing away the container Benign Violation Theory...
Dramaturgy, Role Theory and Modes

Dramaturgy, Role Theory and Modes

Modes What mode are you in right now? You may intuitively know exactly what I’m talking about. Ever interrupt a conversation and the person changes their conversation style/demeanor? That’s an example of someone switching modes. Are modes just putting a...
Most useful and helpful episodes of 2024!

Most useful and helpful episodes of 2024!

Welcome to 2025. As with last year, we are selecting the most helpful and useful episodes of the previous year. Of course I feel that all of the episodes are useful and helpful. Each one has a use, a point, and a tangible takeaway. Each one is a unique perspective on...
Resolutions—what works and what doesn’t

Resolutions—what works and what doesn’t

Resolutions—what works and what doesn’t and why. It’s really important that you don’t repeat the same things that didn’t work last time. You want to make this time to be different. Levels As we mentioned in the Labels episode, we like to label...
Depression and throwing away the container

Depression and throwing away the container

This is a separate article that goes with this podcast episode. it is not a transcript but rather an alternate summary of what the episode is about. NOTE: Depression, and worse (the meaning of “throwing away the container”) is a delicate subject. The truth...
Am I a systems thinker?

Am I a systems thinker?

Guess who has this one? 🙂 NOTE: As I’ve said before, these thirteen ‘states of being’ are not being looked at as an ‘ailment’ or a ‘disease’ or a disadvantage. Just as there are upsides to what some would consider a...
The Silence of Success

The Silence of Success

Social Media and You If you’re on social media, whether it’s the Boomers Gone Wild of Facebook, the Graphic (in many ways) Instagram, the Millennial-Controlled Tiktok or the ‘business-oriented’ Linkedin, you will see the kind of posts I’m...
Deferred Gratitude and Exotic Cars

Deferred Gratitude and Exotic Cars

Exotic Cars When people purchase exotic cars, they are sometimes hit with something called deferred maintenance. As with many car buyers, they see the value of purchasing a car used. The positive of that is that they get a car they want at a dramatically reduced...
Time and energy = space

Time and energy = space

A new formula Here’s an interesting concept for you, just when you thought you understood that life is made of three things: Time, Energy and Resources. But after ll, this is alchemy. Time, Energy and Resources Alchemy for Life™ has always been about life being...
Is Positivity just oblivious contentment?

Is Positivity just oblivious contentment?

What is Positivity? You may think that ‘positivity’ doesn’t belong with such states of being as OCD, Anxiety, ADHD and the others featured in this 13-part series, but I think it does because it is markedly different than the average person....
Don’t speak that into existence!

Don’t speak that into existence!

Toddlers with chainsaws Are chainsaws bad? No. Should toddlers use them? No. We use chainsaws to perform a task, we don’t give them to toddlers because it is dangerous to do so and the toddlers don’t understand the balance of danger and functionality....
Psych Charm: ADHD

Psych Charm: ADHD

ADHD – Also known as Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. What is ADHD? Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. People with ADHD typically struggle with finding it difficult to focus. They are easily distracted in pursuit of stimulus. Sometimes the...
Psych Charm: Anxiety

Psych Charm: Anxiety

Anxiety – The feeling of stress, the activation of a fight-or-flight mode. Anxiety for some can be a fairly dull but constant sensation of having to attend to a problem—a nagging feeling that you need to take care of something. This can be from the demands of...
Gamification, Iconization and Tangibility.

Gamification, Iconization and Tangibility.

Gamification, Iconization and Tangibility Those are some crazy words. They’re fun and I like saying them. But what do they mean? My history I have always enjoyed looking at things as a system. It was only relatively recently that I realized that was what I was...
Creativity as a skill

Creativity as a skill

Are you creative? No matter what your job, career or calling is, no matter what hobbies you have or do not, you have creativity. What if we treat it as a separate skill? What happens then? You’ll be amazed. Join our free community at patreon to talk about it....
If you don’t see the system…

If you don’t see the system…

“I see systems” This is something I have said for a very long time. Once I learned that this was one of my core directives it all made sense. But what does that mean, and how can that help you? Let’s talk about the systems in your life. If you...
It’s Time for Something Different

It’s Time for Something Different

It’s time. After all these episodes, books, coaching, and articles, it’s time to approach this differently and give us a better way to connect with each other. We both deserve it. https://alchemyfor.life/podcasts/patreon.mp3Podcast: Play in new window |...
Guaranteed Great Day if You do This…

Guaranteed Great Day if You do This…

I guarantee you will have a great day if you do this. And you might get a huge laugh out of it as well. Believe it or not this episode touches on and doubt, more experimental, psychology, and the holy Grail of positivity bias. All because your friend wants you to help...
Engagement Fiction for Your Type A Brain

Engagement Fiction for Your Type A Brain

A New Genre You are now part of the birth of a new genre—engagement fiction. I know it’s new because I just made it up. If you’re a type a personality*, then you probably enjoy your brain being fully engaged for your work. But when it comes time for play,...
Selfishness demystified

Selfishness demystified

You’re probably selfish for a good reason. If not, your definition of selfishness is what’s stopping you from taking care of yourself properly. This is not about self-care and self-love. It’s about something entirely different....
Too much power to something via label

Too much power to something via label

You might be giving too much power to something in your life, just because you gave it a LABEL. See labels for more on labels in: If you use them you’ll get smarter (or dumber) https://alchemyfor.life/podcasts/news.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe:...
Three Phrases to Improve the Quality of Your Life

Three Phrases to Improve the Quality of Your Life

Phrases and mantras We all have phrases we can readily repeat. Some of us have important phrases that have made an impact on us. Some of us (like me) even have a mantra we live by. The most impactful Doing an inventory, I came up with three phrases that have had the...
Meat Puppets handing you mailing list data

Meat Puppets handing you mailing list data

The right and the wrong way to approach a networking event Most of my episodes are about experimental psychology, how to deal with and manage time, energy and resources, or a unique concept I’d like you to consider. Sometimes the episode is a purely...
If I were you…

If I were you…

Advice Who doesn’t like giving advice? Who doesn’t like receiving it? Wait, put your hands down, that was rhetorical. In all seriousness sometimes we need to ask for advice (we can’t all be in a bubble) and we are lucky that someone values our wisdom...
Conf Calls, Promises and Who is Actually Talking

Conf Calls, Promises and Who is Actually Talking

The olden days of voice only In the olden days when people wanted to collaborate they would jump on a conference call vs. jumping on a video call. It was extremely common to have a number of calls during any given week, and the larger the business the more conference...
The Challenge of Perspective

The Challenge of Perspective

Sometimes you get the chance to see something from two perspectives. Sometimes both perspectives come from the same person. Sometimes that person is you. The fun part Here’s a quick 10-minute episode on how and why this happens, and how you can use it not only...
Protecting Your Energy

Protecting Your Energy

Remember the How Do You Have Time For This? episode? If not, check it out. I talked about how more than once I’ve been asked “How do you have time for that” when I chat about books, speaking, podcasts, projects, etc. And my answer to them is always...
Too Many Words

Too Many Words

Stroke support Group Recently, I sat in on a stroke support group. The group was for both the individuals who experienced strokes as well as their caretakers/family members. I had the blessing of the admin staff to do so. Was it uncomfortable? Yes did I feel out of...
A Strength Stretched too far Becomes a Weakness

A Strength Stretched too far Becomes a Weakness

Knowing your strengths Do you know your strengths some people do and some people don’t. If you do know your strengths, there is something about them. You may not realize and that’s the subject of this podcast. Stretching too far Sometimes when we approach...
Live Your Life Iteratively

Live Your Life Iteratively

What is an iteration? An iteration is an updated version of something built upon its previous version. But, and iteration can also be another separate version. Examples of iterations When someone bakes a cake, they can create a cake that has chocolate filling, vanilla...
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